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I can not be close friends with these people, because you can't be close friends with most people.

Thank you for saying this, because it's something I've been struggling with just for years and years now. I think this is an important thing for me to learn. I'm slowly getting it. Because, you know, I used to try and be best friends with just everyone. Everyone I met. And if they didn't like me, I'd worry and get all twisted up about it and blame myself and feel guilty. The same if I didn't happen to particularly like them, which was even harder because I used to think that I liked everybody. Which is just so stupid, because that's certainly not possible. So now I'm learning that I can have friends, and I can have good friends, and I can have really super-close friends, and none of these friendships takes anything away from the other ones. There's no need to measure them; some things just have to be.

I think you said it really nicely, anyway. So, what we all really want to know is, what was your prom dress like? Pictures?

Why are you in Tavie's head? 4:18 PM | shower me with attention